I attended a virtual idea sharing for Boston business owners this week (thank you @staceyshipman) and I heard something there which really stuck in my mind. “Living In Questions”.
I liked this concept and it got me thinking.
The conversation was about how we are all, really living in questions right now and how some of us are getting used to this. For many, these questions are potentially life changing. Will I survive the next round of layoffs? Will I get hired back by my company? When will I feel better? How will my parents/grandparents fare in the next few weeks/months? Will I be able to pay my mortgage/rent? Will I be able to retire as I had planned? What about my young children? How will this affect them? How is my partner really doing? Does elderberry work? Zinc? Should I wipe down my groceries? Almost everything is a question today and the bar for uncertainty has been raised about as high as it can go.
We discussed how settling in to “living in questions” is a helpful way to manage expectations and how to deal with the constant feeling of unease. We will not be coming out of this pandemic any time soon and when we do – we will still be living in questions. How long until the economy comes back? What will happen to my small business? What about my industry as a whole? My health? Summer plans? Holidays? What will these look like? The list goes on and on and on.
But here’s the thing… as a lifelong type-a, over planner, I-need-to-know-right-now personality type, I’ve been getting comfortable with living in questions. And it’s not so bad here. Accepting that I just don’t know has allowed me to live today and ease into what is. And that’s a pretty good place to be.
Now if only I could answer the big question…where can I get some toilet paper?